If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal ideation, know that you are not alone and confidential help is available to you.
At the Counseling and Wellness Center, we have trained professionals that are here to help individuals work through these feelings. Please call us at (603) 897-8251.
If you are at immediate risk of hurting yourself or someone else, call 911 or go to the nearest medical center. To speak with a trained counselor at any time, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by texting or calling 988, or contact the Crisis Text Line.
Most people who attempt or commit suicide suffer from untreated or under-treated mental health issues. Suicide is most commonly associated with depression, but there are other mental health issues that can place people at higher risk of suicide. They include, but are not limited to, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, and schizophrenia.
Suicide Warning Signs
When thinking of ending their life, most people will communicate their intent in some fashion. Sometimes an individual in suicidal crisis will express their risk verbally, with words such as “I just can’t go on” or “I wish I were dead.” Oftentimes, however, we must be watchful for signs in their mood, behavior, or circumstances.
Any of the following could be potential warning signs for suicide:
- Excessive sadness or moodiness
- Withdrawal from family and friends
- Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness
- Strong anger or rage
- Feelings of being trapped—believing there is no way out of a situation
- Excessive guilt or shame
- Severe mood changes, including a sharp rise in mood after a period of depression
- Drug or alcohol abuse, or relapse after a period of recovery
- Recent release from psychiatric hospitalization
- Change in personality and/or appearance
- Impulsive or reckless behaviors
- Loss of interest in most activities
- History of at least one previous suicide attempt
- Changes in sleeping habits
- Changes in appetite, eating patterns, or weight
- Poor work or school performance
- Giving away prized possessions or putting personal affairs in order
- Acquiring a gun or stockpiling pills
- Change in level of spiritual interest/disinterest
- Recent disappointment or rejection (e.g. relationship breakup, job loss)
- Family problems
- Financial problems
- Victimization (emotional, physical, or sexual abuse)
- Death of a close friend or family member, especially if by suicide
- Serious or terminal illness; fear of becoming a burden to others
Can Suicide Be Prevented?
While not all suicides can be prevented, early interventions reduce risks. The best ways to prevent suicide are to:
- Know the risk factors for suicide
- Be alert to the signs of depression and other mental health issues
- Recognize the warning signs for suicide
- Intervene before the person can act
What Should I Do if I See the Warning Signs of Suicide?
Having support and access to mental health services is key in preventing individuals from acting on suicidal ideation. Being isolated increases a person’s risk for suicide. If you think someone is in danger, take action in the following ways:
- Ask directly if he or she is thinking about suicide. Don’t be afraid to use the words “suicide” or “kill yourself.”
- Listen without judgment. Listening communicates caring and can be healing all by itself.
- Ask about his or her support system, including friends, family, counselors, religious leaders, or any other people who might be helpful.
- Don’t argue with the individual. Just let them know that their problem is temporary and solvable and that you’re willing to help.
- Advise the person to seek professional help. Help them call the Counseling and Wellness Center at 603-897-8251.
- Do not leave the person alone. If possible, ask for help from friends or other family members.
- If you need help, call a 24-hour suicide crisis hotline such as 1-800-SUICIDE, or you can text or call 988.
- If the person is in immediate danger, call 911, or take the person to the nearest emergency room.
What Not to Say to a Suicidal Person
- “It’s not that bad.” To a suicidal person, the problem they’re facing really does feel bad enough to end their life. Don’t minimize that.
- “Just snap out of it.” The mental health issues that lead to suicidality are not simple. Most people cannot simply “snap out” of them. Treatment is a process.
- “Don’t do anything stupid.” To a suicidal person, a plan to end their life is not stupid at all. It is a carefully thought-out way to end their pain.